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Yours To Bear

Life is strange and can throw you curve balls the likes of which you would never ever see coming. You think you know someone, decease yourself included, ask and then ‘Boom!’, your world changes because something has happened and nothing makes sense, or you are thinking things that you have never thought before either about yourself or other people. I have had a few bouts with this last few years. These experiences have shocked, amazed, and saddened me.

What happens when you are brought up to believe and live a certain way and you find out that you truly believe something else which would be much to the chagrin of your parents and family, or society in general. Not that what you now believe is destructive to society as whole or in part (at least in your opinion), but is just against the norm or not societally accepted.

What are some things that might qualify in this situation? There are quiet a few and I will let you mind wander, but think of it. Your life changes. You have this belief or thought that you cannot share or speak freely about because you will be looked down upon or seen as a deviant or crazy person. You feel that it is right and it makes a lot of sense (to you), but it is very much against common societal standards and norm. What do you do?

Which is right? Which is wrong? Because 150 trillion people believe and/or live this way does not mean it is right. Because a few hundred or a few thousand people, or 4 people, believe or think another way does not mean that it is wrong. The world can be kind of lonely without the ability to share these thoughts or beliefs if they are yours and yours alone to bear.

What are your thoughts or beliefs that are yours to bear and what do you do with them or how do you cope? (You may take this as being rhetorical if you like.)

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My wife and I spent some cash buying soil, page bricks, plants, bushes, weed guard, mulch and flowers to do some landscaping for the house. We finished the first part of our project which is a small are with lilys, silver wormwood (I think), and pansies surrounded with a circular red brick, and covered with a lighter wood-chip mulch. That took us quite a while to finish, but we did get it done.

The last thing that I need to do is finish digging the holes for the two honeysuckle bushes next to the porch. The land around our house sucks! we have about 4-5 inches of soil and then shale or sandstone. I am trying to follow the rule of thumb that I was told for the hole which is 2 1/2 times as wide and 3 times as deep as the plant’s pot is wide. =( This makes for a very large and deep hole. I am almost done digging the first hole. It is not as deep as this rule of thumb would indicate but it is close. I will spend one more day on digging the first hole and then I will plant the sucker and then on to the next one. Ugghhhh!!

I will be glad when this is all done. We just have to make sure that we are able to keep the plants watered or they will die. Not a good thing especially with all of the money and time that we have invest in it. If you have any suggestions for first time landscaper/home owner for this sort of a thing, please let me know.

One thing to mention about all of this is that we have had fun trying to decide on the process. We are quite different in our approaches. I being a geek and not minding measure and following directions have rules of thumb that I want to follow and they seem to make some sense to me especially for the crappy soil that we have.

Tanya on the other hand, having done a lot of similar stuff with her family’s Dacha (Like a vacation/country house that is often times used to grow plants for eating), at least in my perception, wants to just dig a whole and whip them in the ground, which quite contrary to my sensibilities. We have spent enough money on this process that I am willing to spend some extra time to measure distances between plants, follow rules of thumb, and take some extra time to potentially safe-guard our investment. So, this has been an interesting process. I will admit, that of the two of us, she is the only person to have any experience with sort of stuff, and I am sure that she has done a lot of it. I guess I am just a little leery and over cautious because I have no experience and there is quite a lot of money invested! =)

Have I told you that I love my wife? I do! She rocks!